Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her... When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
out there, so when you make dinner reservations for 8, you might want to tell her to meet you at 7 (just in case). Commit these words to memory: "I'm on my way."No, no she's not.
On the plus side, if you're going to any Latin-specific events (her family's throwing a party, etc.), no one cares if you show up two hours after the specified time on the invitation. When she texts or calls you and says this, what she really means is, "I haven't gotten out of bed or showered yet, but I'm thinking about it."4. And don't ask, because that gets awkward really quickly. Don't be alarmed if she introduces you to her family (parents, grandparents, cousins, and all) seemingly early on. Yes, this is a bit contradictory to the above point, and it may even seem a little unfair, but that's just how it is. It's kind of cute that you want to be able to speak to her in Spanish, but also kind of annoying at the same time when all she wants to do is enjoy dinner.
Meaning, if the first date goes well, perhaps the better time to spend hard earned cash on flowers or candy is on the 2nd date.